You + Me + Talking About Shit = <3

Relationships are never easy, and if they were they would probably be really boring. I think if it was so easy and perfect all the time we wouldn't appreciate them as much when things go right and it makes you feel that much more amazing after going through each others shit.

Couples fight, disagree, and don't always see eye to eye on things. People's habits eat away at each other and cause rifts in a relationship. It's just part of the natural process of things. This doesn't mean it isn't going to work out in the end. The real test of a couples longevity is truly in the way they work through it all and how they come to a compromise or any sort of conclusion and their communication skills.

If people just let the small things eat away at them and don't know how to approach their partner when this or that bothers them the stuff that was originally only a small annoyance can eventually become HUGE. For me trust, a sense of humor, being able to charm the pants off me, and communication are big things in any relationship (along with nice teeth). In many of my past relationships I've not been too good about communicating things that bother me. I think personally I had been doing a lot better recently. In the past month perhaps not so much though, but in general I've done my part to communicate when something doesn't make me feel good.

Communication in a relationship is not a one-sided deal though, and it might at times feel like that for one person or the other. When your partner comes to you about how something in your relationship feels different in perhaps not the most positive way even if it might seem like nothing to you, but consider talking to them about it. After all they did approach you about something bothering them and it might seem important to them. Writing their problems off no matter how small without giving it a thought could seem like you don't care about what they think/say or the relationship in general.

All of these things are supposed to show how you problem solve together and work through the differences to see if in the long run you even have a shot at anything. If you can work through the smaller differences now then coming together to talk about the bigger things in the future won't seem as impossible as Mount Everest staring you in the face.

For me I know one of the hardest obstacles now is getting over the stigma that past relationships have given me that people won't change for someone they care about or aren't willing to even try. This isn't fair, and I know it. It's something I need to work on, and hopefully someone will prove me wrong at some point.

I want so badly to be wrong (for once).

Listening to: "We're so Far Away" by Mae

Quote of the Day: "In springtime, love is carried on the breeze. Watch out for flying passion or kisses whizzing by your head." -Emma Racine deFleur